Pastor Chris,
Am i mistake or unwanted because i grew up without friends and my life is always complicated that everywhere i go people don’t like me even at work my bosses don’t like me . What should i do? Am i cursed?
~ Andiswa
ANSWER
Andiswa,
It is a wonderful thing to have a friend. The best friend anyone could ever have is Jesus. He is the one who “sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). The Bible also says that Jesus is a friend to sinners (Matthew 11:19). Jesus will never let you down.
I do not think you are cursed. A far as human friendship is concerned we will often be let down and hurt. Everyone I know has been disappointed by others. People can be self-centered and fickle. Sometimes they intentionally hurt us. Other times they are so wrapped up in themselves that they do not realize the hurt they cause others. But it still hurts anyway, whatever the reason.
That being said, there are reliable people you can trust to be your true and genuine friend. You just have to find them. Remember, Jesus went out and searched for His disciples. Sometimes we have to go out and search for our friends.
How do you find a friend? Here are some ideas:
Be a friend to someone else. Treat someone the way you want to be treated (Matthew 7:12).
Learn to listen to others. Listen more than you talk.
Attend a Bible study group.
Find a lonely person and look for a way to serve him.
Call people by their name when you see them.
Put a smile on your face. Think positive, lovely thoughts (Philippians 4:8).
Go to a retirement center and visit the shut-ins.
Ask your pastor to give you the name of someone who needs a friend.
Write encouragement cards to others who are hurting.
Look around. Others are lonely, too.
A good book on the subject is The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for
~ Pastor Chris
